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Daria Kaliman, Registered Associate Marriage and Family Therapist in Pasadena, CA, specializing in trauma, attachment, anxiety, perfectionism, and burnout.
Daria Kaliman

Registered Associate
Marriage & Family Therapist, #151840
Integrative Trauma & Attachment Therapist
Supervised by Courtney Watson, LPCC, #21190

The people who find me are usually deeply capable, often the reliable anchor others rely on. They are ambitious, responsible, and consistently perform at a high level across every aspect of life. While their external world appears successful and impeccably managed, they often grapple with an underlying sense of being trapped.

Many of them already have engaged in significant self-reflection, done the ‘work,’ and learned how to persevere. However, beneath a successful exterior, they may still contend with debilitating perfectionism, persistent anxiety, chronic burnout, complex relationship challenges, or the pressure of constantly holding everything together on their own.

AT A GLANCE
 

Areas of Specialty

Neurodivergence & Masking
Trauma & attachment
Perfectionism & Burnout
Body Image & Eating Concerns
Creative Blocks & Identity
Relationships, Solo or Partnerned
 

Modalities

Emotionally Focused Therapy
EMDR
Parts Work
Somatic Therapy
Narrative Therapy
Expressive Arts
 

Sessions

In-Person in Pasadena
Telehealth throughout California

My Approach

I’m curious by nature. I want to know how you work, what makes sense to you, and what never quite has. Therapy with me is a two-way conversation, not a TED talk.
You’ll hear me say some version of “Here’s what I’m hearing. Correct me if I’m wrong,” a lot. That’s not a formality. Nobody knows your life better than you do, and I want you to feel secure enough to push back, ask for what you need, and advocate for yourself, even with me. Especially with me.
Clients tell me I’m thoughtful, funny, honest, and direct. I’ll also reach for a metaphor any chance I get. Most of them land. Some absolutely do not. Hopefully we can laugh about those.
At its core, my work is attachment-based and trauma-informed. I pull from Emotionally Focused Therapy, EMDR, parts work, narrative therapy, somatic work, and expressive arts, depending on what you need that day. Sometimes that means talking it through. Sometimes it means noticing what your body is doing before your words catch up. Sometimes it means picking up a marker, because some things are easier to draw than to say.
With couples, I use EFT to get underneath the fight you keep having on repeat, so you can both see what the other one is actually reaching for.
And if you’re neurodivergent, you don’t have to translate yourself here. Unmasking is allowed. Encouraged, even.

Background & Training

  • → PROFESSIONAL BACKGROUND
  • → EDUCATION & TRAINING

Before I was a therapist, I worked a variety of jobs, mostly in education and creative fields. Fashion was a big one: design assistant, stylist, trend forecaster, assistant buyer, personal shopper. All those fittings taught me that what someone looks like on the outside can tell you almost nothing about what’s going on inside. The most put-together person in the room is sometimes the one barely holding it together. I bring that into every session, especially with clients who’ve spent years masking.

I grew up in the Los Angeles area in a family of entertainment industry professionals, and a few of them are still in the business. I’ve seen it up close: the long hours, the pressure to nail it, the scramble to line up the next job before this one wraps, and the anxious in-between when nothing is booked yet. That kind of stress and perfectionism has a way of following people home.

I’ve always loved figuring people out. Why we do what we do, why we love who we love, why we keep landing in the same spot. That curiosity eventually turned inward, into my own therapy, my own healing, and a lot of growth I didn’t see coming. Along the way it became a passion for helping other people do the same.

My roots are in human development, so I tend to look at the whole arc of someone’s life, not just the chapter they’re in right now. I love research, and I got my first taste of it in undergrad, using a community-based approach to study communication between caregivers and educators in early childhood. My biggest takeaway? Warmth and steady care shape our nervous systems. Your body figures out who feels safe way before your brain has words for it. Where we come from matters; our families, our communities, and the systems we grew up in all shape who we are.

Spending time with children and their families informed a lot of the attachment lens I use today. How you start out has a way of showing up in where you are now. My first clinical role was with neurodivergent teens. Watching smart, funny, creative kids get squeezed by systems that weren’t built for their brains stuck with me, and it’s a big part of why neurodivergent-affirming care sits at the center of everything I do. Today I see adolescents, adults, and couples. A lot of them have something in common: they know exactly what it feels like to be misunderstood.

I tend to work with:

  • Neurodivergent individuals and couples (ADHD, autism, 2e, and anyone still figuring it out)
  • High maskers who are tired of looking fine
  • Artists, designers, writers, authors, content creators, and anyone stuck behind a creative wall
  • Movie and entertainment industry professionals, on set, behind the scenes, and everywhere in between
  • Fashion and beauty industry leaders: CEOs, creative directors, and marketing pros
  • Entrepreneurs building something of their own
  • Medical professionals and fellow therapists who take care of everyone but themselves
  • First-gen folks and eldest daughters carrying a lot
  • Hospitality people: restaurateurs, managers, caterers, and everyone keeping front and back of house running
  • LGBTQIA+ clients
  • People healing their relationship with food and their bodies
  • Survivors of trauma

I grew up in Glendale, and my roots run deep in the San Gabriel Valley. Getting to do this work in the community that raised me still kind of blows my mind.

TRAINING
  • 2026 | EMDR Basic Training with EMDR Consulting (EMDRIA Approved)
    EMDR Consulting, Laurie Colson-Young, LMFT, LPCC
  • 2026 | Rethinking ADHD with Gabor Maté and Terry Matlen: From Origins to Healing —  Psychotherapy Networker
  • 2026 | Brainspotting 2-Day Workshop with David Grand: Integrating the Neuroexperiential Model for Rapid Trauma Healing —  Psychotherapy Networker
  • 2025 | Case Conceptualization and Treatment Planning in DBT for Eating Disorders — UC San Diego Health
  • 2025 | Identification, Assessment, and Treatment of Avoidant/Restrictive Food Intake Disorder (ARFID) — UC San Diego Health
  • 2025 | Targeting PTSD in Eating Disorders Treatment: Clinical Considerations and Evidence-Based Interventions — UC San Diego Health
  • 2025 | Exercise and Eating Disorders: Strategies for Safe Integration into Treatment — UC San Diego Health
  • 2025 | Treatment of Eating Disorders in a Neurodivergent Population — UC San Diego Health
  • 2025 | New Insights in the Neurobiology of Eating Disorders and Application to Treatment — UC San Diego Health
  • 2025 | Involving Supports in Care of Transitional Age Youth — UC San Diego Health
  • 2025 | Working with Dissociative Identity Disorder (Part 1) — Christina Mardirossian, Pasadena Trauma Therapy
  • 2024 | Psychological First Aid — National Child Traumatic Stress Network
  • 2022 | Seeking Safety — Treatment Innovations
  • 2022 | Suicide Interventionist Training — Didi Hirsch Mental Health Services
  • 2021 | Trauma-Focused Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (TF-CBT) — Medical University of South Carolina
  • 2026 | Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) Workshop with Leanne Campbell and George Faller: Applying the Evidence-based EFT Model with Couples, Individuals, and Families — Psychotherapy Networker
  • 2025 | Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy Externship — EFTLA
  • 2024 | “When Racialized Ghosts Refuse to Become Ancestors” (Racial Melancholia & Mixed-Race Identity) — ICPLA, Dhwani Shah, MD
  • 2023 | Pregnancy and Infant Loss: Strategies to Support Grief, Trauma, and Depression — PESI
  • 2022 | Psychodynamic Couples Therapy — Maple Counseling
  • 2022 | Fundamentals of Psychedelic-Assisted Psychotherapy — Maple Counseling
  • 2023 | Acceptance & Commitment Therapy: 2-Day Intensive Training — PESI
  • 2019 | Undergraduate Fieldwork & Research in Early Childhood Education — Pacific Oaks College
EDUCATION
  • Master of Arts, Marriage & Family Therapy
    Pacific Oaks College
    • Trauma Studies Specialization
    • National Honors Society
  • Bachelor of Arts, Human Developmen
    Pacific Oaks College
    • Early Childhood Education & Development Concentration

Beyond Therapy

A little about me: I’m a first-gen Colombian American eldest daughter, which means I was handed responsibility early and got really, really good at carrying it. Add ADHD to the mix, and I spent a lot of years working twice as hard to look like I had it all together. That kind of pressure takes a toll.
Recovery has been part of my own story, too. I don’t share that for shock value. I share it because I personally know the full-time job of choosing to work on yourself every day and how hard that can be. I also know change is possible. It’s a big part of why I do what I do.
Off the clock, I’m usually two books deep, out on a trail, or somewhere on a road trip. Closer to home, I love exploring my community: trying a new restaurant, wandering a local museum, or spending an afternoon in a garden. Movie nights swing between horror and Regency romance, and I’ll defend my reality TV picks with my whole chest. I can lose an entire Sunday to a research rabbit hole or a good puzzle, ideally with my dogs and cats piled on the couch with me. Animal care is a big love of mine. I’ve raised and rescued house rabbits, and my time as an amateur beekeeper taught me more about patience than any book. Bees do not care about your timeline.
Daria Kaliman, Registered Associate Marriage and Family Therapist in Pasadena, CA, specializing in trauma, attachment, anxiety, perfectionism, and burnout.
Therapy often begins with the experience of feeling seen, understood, and emotionally safe enough to begin exploring things differently. If something about Daria’s approach resonates with you, we invite you to connect for a consultation.

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